From a young age, we are used to seeking
our own desires and chasing after the things that we want. Some babies will cry
all night long until you hold them because they desire affection and will go to
any length, including screaming their brains out to get it!
I saw this just last week with my
one-year-old god brother. I was making hot tea for myself, and he happens to
love tea for some reason. He walked up to me and motioned for me to pick him
up, so I did. Then he motioned for me to give him some tea. I told him that it
was hot and he waited until I cooled it off a little and gave him a spoonful.
Then all of a sudden, I seemed to be moving too slow for him, so he moved his
hand towards the hot mug. I told him “No, it’s hot” and he moved his hand. Then
he thought about it and tried again so I told him the same thing, but because
he had already purposed in his mind that he was going to get some of that tea
no matter what, he reached quickly towards the cup before I could pull him
back, and he touched the outside of the mug. He wasn’t burned, but he realized
that I was right, it was really hot, and he cried because of it. Needless to
say, he walked away after that.
In many ways, our mentalities don’t
change very much from the mentality of a child. We still have desires that we
go for, no matter how detrimental they are or can be to our spiritual, mental,
physical and emotional health. I mentioned before about how I kept drinking alcohol
for a while even though I got sick every time I drank it. I had a desire that I
was going to fulfill no matter how evidently it was impacting my health. My
desire only changed when my mindset changed (thank God he changed me)!
This is a topic that God has really
been dealing with me a lot on. I’ve learned that while it is good to have
ambition and drive, it is also best to follow the way that God wants us to do
things, not our own way. Romans 8:6 says, “For
to set the mind on the flesh is death, but to set the mind on the Spirit is
life and peace.” When we set our minds on the Spirit, we are automatic recipients
of life and peace. We are liberated because the Spirit gives us power to walk
away from the desires that we have been connected for so long. Galatians
5:24-26 says, “Those who belong to Christ
Jesus have nailed the passions and desires of their sinful nature to his cross
and crucified them there. Since we are living by
the Spirit, let us follow the Spirit’s leading in every part of our lives. Let
us not become conceited, or provoke one another, or be jealous of one another.”
Honestly, trading in the fulfillment
of your own desires for someone else’s is the ultimate sacrifice. After
a long work day, I was driving home from work and was just pulling into my
complex (literally a minute from my door) when my mom called me. She asked me where
I was and what I was doing I knew she was out of the state so I was thinking oh this is nice of her to see how my day is
going. And then BAM! She dropped a hammer on me. She asked me to drive all
the way to her house (during rush hour!!!), to check if she left her keys at
home because she couldn’t find them, and take the dog out since I would already
be there. Immediately my mind was racing. I wanted to hang up on her and
pretend we got disconnected. I wanted to flat out say UMMM NO. But then I
thought back on all the sacrifices that my mom has made for me and the love she
has for me and I came to the realization that I would have to trade in my own
desire to lay on my couch and set aside some time to do her a favor.
That’s the thing about trading in your
own desires. It is contingent upon your love and admiration of the person/thing
that is asking something of you. Jesus said, ““If you love me, obey my
commandments” (John 14:15). If you love someone you’ll do almost anything for
them, most of all, you’ll give up what you really want to do what they want.
But the reality is that once you find
a love for Jesus which cannot be separated, it still won’t be easy to stop
chasing the desires of the flesh. We are humans after all! Lord knows I
struggle with wanting to fulfill my own desires above all else on a daily
basis! A lot of times I want to give in to my attitudes and moods. I want to be
mean to people just because I feel like it and tell people off to release my
pent up anger, but then I remind myself that I don’t want to be like that. I want
to be like Jesus, trading in my own desires for what God wants.
Even Jesus struggled with this before
going to the cross. As he prayed before he was confronted and taken to prison
(and later crucified) the Bible says he said, "Abba Father," he cried out, "everything is possible for you. Please take this cup of suffering away from me. Yet I want your will to be done, not mine." (Mark 14:36). As he was being taken away by the Roman
soldiers, Peter cut off one of the soldiers’ ears. He was ready to fight to the
death, yet still Jesus said “Shall I not drink from the cup of suffering the
Father has given me?” (John 18:10).
I wrote the poem below. I
hope it makes you think about what and who you’re giving your time to, and leads
you to examine your desires and how they match up with God’s.
Awa
One
of the most frequently used words in the Old Testament to indicate desire
is “awa” and its
derivatives, which can be found almost fifty times. Often the subject of this
verb is “nephes” meaning
self, soul, or appetite. The term is translated as "desire,"
"lust," "will," "pleasant," "greed,"
"dainty," and "desirable."- Baker's
Evangelical Dictionary of Biblical Theology.
Your human desires won’t lead you
anywhere, but to destruction.
Your desire for sex, for money, for
power, for status, it’s insatiable.
Through your penchant for competition
you breathe each breath with a
purpose,
motivated by the assurance of self.
Because even when friends don’t,
God knows, God knows.
He knows your browser history, no
matter how often you delete.
He sees you lurk Instagram,
coveting the goods of your “followers,”
and celebrity.
He knows your Google searches,
X.X.X marks the spot.
He sees every online purchase.
He watches you spend all you’ve got.
That time, that money,
it doesn’t further his kingdom.
You misuse the little you have as if the
ticking will never end;
trying to be “hot” or something you’re
not,
like a broken old watch,
come already, stoppp.
Because even when family doesn’t,
God knows, God knows.
He sees you cry at night because
you’re sleeping alone.
Only without HIM is a house not a
home.
He sees you stare in the mirror and
dismiss your reflection,
cursing what God has given you
as if life and breath within itself
isn’t a blessing.
He sees you mourn the passing of your
youth,
cloaked in the darkness of deceit,
accepting the words “you’re ugly”
uttered by your high school bully
as if they were full of meaning and
truth.
But of the words of the father,
which should resonate in your spirit, you’ve
become aloof.
Because even when they don’t,
God knows, God knows.
He knows that deep down ALL you
desire is LOVE.
But he’s saying,
“Am I not he who supplies your needs?
Knowing me is knowing love,
and knowing my love is knowing that I
am in thee.
Thee I have not forsaken.
For you I gave and continue to give my
all,
but for me you give a whisper lacking
in fervor,
not even a 5am prayer call.
I know, yes, I know the longing of
your heart,
and if you would just give yourself
wholly to me,
I will make thee who thou art.”
“But who am I?” you say. “This person
I have yet to discover.
And why is it that when you speak to
me, your words I cannot uncover?”
“You are mine.
You are holy, you are sanctified,
blessed by me, the Lord God, the
Divine.
So to put it plainly would be a grave
injustice
when as the lover of your soul,
I am He to whom your heart should be
entrusted.
Yes I am all-seeing; yes I am
all-knowing;
yes I have all power,
And if you seek me first,
My love I will shower.
Shower like spring rain upon your locks,
a sweet, sweet presence,
a peaceful cooling beverage
on a wistful summer night.
I know, yes, I know
that once you enter my presence
and my Spirit corrupts your sin,
you will want for nothing.
And the desires of mine will also
become yours.
This is true love, true purpose and
true peace.
It is what the devil abhors.
He wants to see you walk in selfish
fulfillment,
bound by the thoughts that pollute
your mind.
But I assure you, It’s gonna be okay.
You have my son’s example to show you
the way
because for you I have in mind a life
free from this bondage,
what do you say?
Will you accept my invitation, wrapped
with its little red bow?
I know it’s at odds with your
carnality,
But still,
I offer you a life unfulfilled by
human desires
and instead full of genuine, holy
sanguinity.
See, because my word will always ring
true, my offer will always stand.
Stand against the bonds of wickedness,
deceit, and every evil work of this land.
Come unto me, all you who are weary and burdened,
and I know, yes I know, that I will give you rest."
and I know, yes I know, that I will give you rest."